In this personal post, which is part my own sociological analysis and part self psychoanalysis, all based on my 60 years on this planet and in this society in modern civilization. This has been in draft form on my mind for weeks now, so here goes.
Let me define the terms i am going to use, as in the title of this post:
Friends (with a capital F) are lifelong Friends who stick with you with loyalty, love, concern, and continuing communication no matter where in the world life takes us.
friends (with a small f) who are usually friend of Friends and friends we associate with and who can become Friends if we synch right.
Work-related-friends or even school-related-friends who come and go depending or where we go to work or school.
e-friends who are people we meet on the internet through Facebook or Blogs or other social media, whom we will most likely never meet face to face or even talk on the phone with.
I like to say i can throughout my life that i can count my true Friends “on one hand after a farming accident” (with one or two fingers missing, lol), and i have been lucky at times to have Friends i can count on two hands after a farming accident.
Right now in my life i would say i have maybe 5-6 Friends who have stuck with me though this illness and visit me fairly often and are very encouraging and uplifting and who give me rides to distant doctor’s appointments etc. And 2 of these Friends (who are my mum and nearby aunt. Yes, as you get older you do finally realize that blood is thicker than water.
2 other Friends, both witches in the coven i have known for over 30 years and we remain in fairly constant communication though it is difficult for us to visit each other. One coven initiate, and my girlfriend, has been most loyal and loving in the last few years i have known her, and is a true Friend. One other probationer, who lives far away, i consider a Friend is in daily and weekly communication and i wish he lived closer to me. Other past initiates either have dropped out of communication, or only text me when they need something, after i text or email them first. That’s the story of email communications for me – i email someone, they email me back, i email them back, then it all stops for months.
Now friends come and go like witch probationers, of which i say from experience are a dime a dozen. They come and go depending on circumstances and personalities.
I can tell you to look around and everyone you consider to be a friend right now and most will be gone in 5-10 years.
Work-related-friends are even even more like bubbles on the water. Even when i worked in the hospital and just moved from one floor to another my w-r-f’s soon faded away to being nearly strangers. One guy i worked with for over 20 years just stopped answering phone calls and emails. Why? Who knows. And the people i knew in high school and college, they too are all gone.
e-friends are nice, and i have met a lot of interesting and caring people since i started blogging. But i am not that into social media and hate FB, having been involved in it before. And on WP i try to stay out of the squabbles. Its too bad most of us are worlds away. I am very grateful for those of you who have communicated by commenting on my posts, and i enjoy reading your posts. Mostly stuck here in my house on my pc i am very glad i have discovered blogging, which keeps my mind alert and thinking and communicating.
I am not sure why i am even posting this blog, and am Not doing it to attract attention or pity, so i don’t want any kind of that feedback. I guess i just want to share about what true Friendship means, and may you all be blessed with those rare Friends who continue throughout your life. I am sure this is coming across as cynical, based on my life experiences, but maybe i am just picky about Friends and friends, most of which that i make are involved in witchcraft and magicke and other spiritual pursuits, but we are all too human with all our psychological and social imperfections, and hopefully over lifetimes i will grow and evolve through this life experience.
Until then, thank you my Friends, friends and e-friends (and keep on blogging!).
And if anyone is personally offended by this post, my apologies that i did not communicate this properly so as to not offend anyone.
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